I have come to expect these sorts of sentiments from people.
Sometimes it comes from a good, albeit misinformed, place. Your loved ones are
often just trying to help you with something they don’t understand. This
doesn’t make it any easier to hear though when you know that you are trying
your hardest and nothing seems to work.
I find myself trying to do the things that people want me to
do just so that I can say to them: ‘look I have tried X and I'm doing all I can
to try and get better’. Ultimately though, I know that these things won’t
magically cure my mental illness. It’s more complex than that. My body has shut
down and my behaviours have become strange. A switch has turned off in my brain
and it is going to take a lot more than going on a jog to fix things. Hearing these kinds of things from friends and family is to be expected. Hearing them from professionals though is quite shocking.
I once went to the GP to ask for some diazepam for my
anxiety problem. I had been prescribed it by my psychiatrist but I wasn’t
seeing him for a while. The GP’s response? ‘You just need to WORK through your
anxiety. You shouldn’t rely on medication.’ (tone was very dismissive). I felt like I was being blamed for
my illness. If only I would work a little harder, all would be fixed. I was
made to feel like I was taking the easy road by taking medication. Of course,
if medication is the easy road so be it. I would rather take the easy road and
fix the problem than struggle down the path of yoga and raw vegetables alone.*
Maybe you wouldn’t expect a GP to have an in-depth knowledge
of mental health problems. However, I would expect that a mental health support
worker would have this kind of expertise. I had a very bad experience with my
support worker. She forced me to do things I wasn’t ready for, she made me pay
for her parking that she claimed back anyway and she asked me to buy her
presents on my holiday. What most distressed me though was that she knew that I
had bipolar but she didn’t believe it. When she read through my DLA application
she was really shocked by the description of some of my behaviours. Her
attitude? ‘I have never SEEN you behave like that.’ (strongly accusing tone).
Surely as a MH support worker she would be aware that people cover up their
problems.
Another time I attended an anxiety and depression group. The
woman that ran the group said to us right at the outset: ‘I don’t think that
any of you are ill. Mental health problems are down to bad experiences, but you
are NOT ill and do NOT need medication.’ Now I am not of the opinion that only
medication should be used to treat mental illness. Tools such as relaxation,
CBT and mindfulness are all things that may help some people with mental illness.
But dismissing the idea that mental illness should be treated with medication
is dangerous. Medication helps many people and has been shown to be effective
in controlled clinical trials. It is not good practice for a psychologist to
dismiss medication just as it is not good practice for a psychiatrist to
dismiss psychological treatments. Ultimately of course it is a patient’s choice what
methods of treatment he or she uses.
When a mental health professional says these kinds of things
it’s very distressing for the patient. Anyone who has experienced a mental
illness knows that they cannot control the illness by will alone. It is not a
problem with strength of mind or character. It is not an easy choice to take
medication. We have all experienced the side effects and the feeling that you
should have been able to control the situation yourself without intervention. The
fact that so many professionals have these incorrect assumptions about mental
illness is deeply concerning. However, they just reflect the deeply ingrained prejudice
of society in general.
A mental health professional has an important relationship
with the patient. It is one in which the power dynamic is unequal. The patient
is deeply distressed and desperate for help. They are fully reliant on the
mental health professional for help. Most professionals are aware of this power
imbalance but do everything they can to listen to the patient and advise, not
dictate to them possible treatments. However, a significant minority of
professionals give poor advice and demonstrate the same prejudices that
uninformed members of the public have. This is all the more damaging
considering the power imbalance between patient and professional.
Over the past few decades we have come a long way in
tackling mental health stigma. This is partly because many professionals have
gone out of their way to educate people and remove some of the stigma. I do not
wish to negate some of the wonderful work many professionals do. I would not be
where I am today without some of the great help I have received. However we
must still hold those in power to account. When a professional holds a
prejudiced view they need to be challenged, because often it is all the more
damaging coming from them than it is coming from your friends and family.
*This is not to dismiss lifestyle changes. My point is that there are many treatments available to us.